Turn Gatekeepers Into Allies!
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Turn Gatekeepers Into Allies!

Respect, courtesy, and kindness are the keys to turning the gatekeepers in your life into allies!

 

A gatekeeper is anyone who restricts entry to people you want to speak to, or who place obstacles in front of you.  Gatekeepers affect your ability to get to the right person in a variety of situations, such as:

  • A hiring manager during a job search;
  • A buyer or decision maker during a sale; or
  • Someone authorized approve a decision you need to have made.

 

Gatekeepers are Everywhere!

Gatekeepers are found in any number of positions in an organization: HR support staff, administrative assistants to managers or executives, aides to a politician or elected official, or even individuals in management roles who are tasked with “managing” the flow of people wanting to speak with their boss.   Recognize that gatekeepers are expected to perform their job by restricting access to certain decision makers and following specific protocol for handling people who want to see or speak to the decision maker. 

 

 

Gatekeepers Influence Those With Whom You Want to Connect

You never know the level of influence a gatekeeper may have with the person you are trying to reach:

  • In a job search, a gatekeeper might routinely provide his or her impressions of candidates in order to get a sense of how candidates might interact with staff members.
  • In a selling situation, a gatekeeper might complain to his or her boss about a salesperson’s heavy-handed or rude approach.
  • An assistant might advise his or her supervisor that your request lacks merit or significance enough to warrant speaking directly to the supervisor.

In any event, it is never a good idea to create a negative impression with someone connected with the person you are trying to reach!

 

Seven Strategies to Convert Gatekeepers Into Allies 

We recommend several effective practices for managing your relationships with gatekeepers:

  1. Never make an enemy of a gatekeeper. Doing so will have the same outcome as if you had made an enemy of the person the gatekeeper is protecting.
  2. Always treat gatekeepers with the utmost respect and courtesy. Stand out among the people with whom they interact by doing this and you will build an advocate.  Remember that they are doing their job and are likely getting a degree of “attitude” from many who want to speak with their boss.  When you treat them well, they take a positive interest in you.
  3. Ask the gatekeeper’s opinion. Most gatekeepers are well trained to respond to requests for help, and you may be surprised how helpful they can be if you’ve treated them well.
  4. Get to know others in the decision chain through networking and research on social networks like LinkedIn. Reach out to those contacts and see if they can become an advocate for you.
  5. Use the five magic words to which gatekeepers the world over are trained to respond: “Will you please help me?”
  6. Once you’ve successfully connected with the right person, make sure you speak positively of your experience with the gatekeeper. Kind words have a habit of getting back to gatekeepers, and when they do, you’ll have a friend the next time you call or visit.
  7. Should you get hired, make a sale, or begin some other kind of business association, continue to develop your relationship with the gatekeeper. They can often give you an insider’s perspective, advice, or insights you’d never get anywhere else.

 

Bottom line: Whenever you make a gatekeeper an ally, you build not only your network but your reputation.  Both will pay massive dividends sooner or later.

 

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Boyer Management Group works with universities, employers and job seekers alike to help them become more successful.  For job seekers and universities, we offer the world’s first assessment to measure an individual’s knowledge and awareness of current and emerging career search best practices, along with the educational programs to support higher ed curriculum, career coaches and individual job seekers. For employers, we offer world-class leadership development, talent acquisition and onboarding tools and programs.  For sales professionals, we provide programs for B2B, B2C, Retail, and Indirect sales and sales management. To find out more, please visit us at www.boyermanagement.com, email us at info@boyermanagement.com, or call us at 215-942-0982. 

 

Douglas Ales

Senior Account Sales Manager • WESCO Distribution • The industry leader for helping industrial clients achieve dependable, justifiable, and safe electrical systems

8y

5. Use the five magic words to which gatekeepers the world over are trained to respond: “Will you please help me?” I love that one the most Hank Boyer. Well done article with value.

Thomas Aquilone

Director of Technology with a bent toward strategic and tactical live webcasting, video production planning & support. Also, Manager at SMPTE Philadelphia Section.

8y

I have seen this work Hank! Very insightful article!!!

Jennifer Hollywood

Business Owner J Hollywood Designs - Jewelry Designer

8y

Great read Hank! Hope all is well.

Leah Shmerling CMF

Online Course Creator of 160 courses and Course Facilitator | Career Guru | Career Coach | Retirement Specialist | Author & Freelance Writer |

8y

Very helpful article, thank you Hank.

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